Monday, August 26, 2013


Parent of Friend?

As I watched the performance of Miley Cyrus this morning from last night’s VMA I, like many of you, cringed and had a hard time keeping my breakfast down. As the father of two children who has Hannah Montanna albums on his ITunes account that I sing along with my daughter, I was horrified at how much she has changed. She went from a wholesome (seemingly) down-home young lady to what can only be described as “tramp-like” in a relatively short period of time. During that time, I have switched from encouraging my 8 year old daughter to emulate her to not wanting my daughter to see her at all. What happened? How do I make sure it does not happen to my daughter? Is there a secret “parenting tip” that can help?

First things first, pray for Miley and her family. She has obviously lost her way and is searching for something to steady her life. It appears to me that she is wandering around in secular darkness and someone needs to pierce that darkness and show her the love of the Father. I also encourage you to pray for her father as I cannot imagine what watching something like that would do to me as a father. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and deserve to be loved and encouraged in that family.

Second, as a parent, love your children as parents not friends. I was watching an Andy Stanley series on the family and he spoke about being friends with your children when they are grown but only if you were a parent as they were growing up. I read an interview that Billy Ray Cyrus gave about wanting to be Miley’s friend for years and how he believes that is what will cause her to go down the wrong path. The interview was given two years ago and I believe it was prophetic. I also watch as parents get on TV after their child is charged with a heinous crime and say “that could not be my son (or daughter) doing that…” or “my child is an angel and would never do such a thing.” I heard both of those statements from parents of the boys who shot the Australian baseball player in Oklahoma last week. I do not want to blame the parents for every evil that their children do, but I would encourage parents to spend time not entertaining their children but getting to know their children and setting boundaries and discipline. This does not mean that in order to be a good parent you need to be a hard ass. It means that children are looking for boundaries in order to feel safe and if you do not set them, no one will.

I am by no means the expert but, to boil it all down, no one is perfect and children who are raised in a loving Christ-Centered home can still do the wrong thing. But, if there are more loving Christ-Centered homes, there are more chances for loving Christ-Centered children. Love your children by teaching them how to behave and setting boundaries for mistakes that they make but also supporting them as a parent. Your children will grow up to have many friends but only 2 parents.

I choose to be a PARENT

Thursday, August 22, 2013


How strong is your faith?

I was spending time thinking and praying for the people who are being persecuted for their faith is Egypt. Currently, 60-80 churches and Christian organizations have been burned to the ground in Egypt. I heard a story about a 10 year old girl who was walking home from Bible study with her Christian teacher. In the middle of the street, someone walked up to her and shot her in the chest because she had a Bible. She was rushed to the hospital by her teacher and was pronounced DEAD at the hospital. Father asked me the question above and sadly, my answer was: Not as strong as the 10 year old girl walking down the street of Cairo with a Bible. As I looked back at persecutions from the past, Nazi Germany comes to mind here. In order for Hitler to kill 11 million people, he had to make others afraid to say anything. He did this through Brute shows of force that made people scared to stand up. Right now, the Muslim Brotherhood in Egypt is doing the exact same thing by showing force and trying to intimidate Christians into living under Sharia Law. If your church was burned to the ground and you witnessed a 10 year old girl being shot for her faith, what would you do about it? Are you willing to stand up for your faith or is faith something that you practice in order to check some box on a form? I am asking myself these questions along with others so that we can decide what we believe in and can have the courage to stand in the face of darkness if that day were to come.

So, how strong is your faith?

Monday, August 12, 2013

"All that is needed for evil to prosper is for good men to do nothing." Edmund Burke


How do you kill 11 Million People? Title of a book I read recently by Andy Andrews who lives down here in Orange Beech. Obviously, by the title, you can tell that the book deals with the Holocaust and how Hitler killed 11 Million people. In the book he takes the angle concerning the lies that Hitler told to get the people on the trains. As I was reading it however, Father wanted me to see it from the perspective of how other people in the area allowed it to happen. One day your neighbor is at his house and seemingly ok and the next day, they are gone forever. Why did people not speak up as the darkness of the third reicht spread throughout that part of the world? I know there were a few as I have been studying Dietrich Bonhoeffer who was martyred for standing for his beliefs. But Father had a different message for me to look at and it involved 1 letter and 2 biblical people.

The letter that Father took me to was Paul’s letter to Galatia. Specifically, Galatians 5:19-21 which says:

"It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on. This isn’t the first time I have warned you, you know. If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God’s kingdom."

Now, let’s compare our current culture to the one that Paul was talking about in Galatia.

 Where are we as a culture as compared to the Galatian culture? Have we become so arrogant that we believe we can do things without Father’s help? I would refer you to the book "The Harbinger" in which the author makes the point that the rebuilding of the tower at Ground zero is a perfect example of the arrogance of our culture. Are we as a people “fat and sassy” and unconcerned for the people in our communities. Where does our culture stand on things like homosexuality and abortion? Take that a step further, where do we as Christians STAND when it comes to those two issues. I am curious if any of your pastors have stood up in the pulpit and talked about the abortion fight that happened in Texas recently where the argument was whether or not to ban abortions after 20 weeks and people were actually chanting “Hail Satan” at the crowd that was in agreement with the bill. Or has your pastor spoken about Kermit Gosnell who  was killing aborted babies that were "mistakenly" born alive? I wonder what the people who lived in Sodom would say when looking at our culture? Do you think they would try to warn us that they had traveled the road we are on and it does not end well? Do you think they would be mad that Father destroyed them for lesser things than what we are doing today?  My point is that our culture is growing darker and more evil each and every day and I want to change the culture not just my neighborhood. That leads me to another question. What has Father asked me to do to change the culture and am I willing to do it? Here is where the two Biblical men come in.

The first man I was shown by Father to look at is Jonah. I know you all have heard about him and the whale and while that part of the story is incredible, Father wanted me to focus on his response to God when given a task. Approximately 750-800 years before Christ, Jonah lived in Gath-hepher a town near Nazareth. Ninevah at the time was considered an “exceedingly great city” that was a four day journey across. Father looked at the city of Ninevah and saw people who could not tell right from wrong (sound familiar??). He decided to send someone who could preach to the people of Ninevah and share who He was and tell them to repent and turn back to God. Father chose Jonah (we do not know if he was the first or the last choice) to go to Ninevah and preach against them getting them to turn back to Father. Jonah’s response to the call was where Father took me. What did Jonah do??? Correct, he ran in the opposite direction. Some of us are called to do things that seem extremely hard and we run the other way. We do not always end up in the belly of a whale but we run expecting Father to find someone else to do it. What Jonah was being asked to do was VERY HARD but Father had him picked out specifically and was willing to equip him for the task.

The second man that Father showed me is Abraham. When Father asked him to sacrifice his only son that he had waited so long to have, did he run the other way? No, he picked up the firewood and started on his journey without question. I look at this and am constantly amazed at his willingness to follow Father no matter what. My natural reaction would be to run the other way and end up in the belly of the whale.

So, why have I brought all of this up? I have been struggling with Father as to what all of this means for me for the past couple of months. I see a darkness continuing to build in my community, state and country. I am not a glass half empty kind of guy as I believe that Father is in complete control and as I heard someone say recently, “The shadow proves the sun.” I do however believe that there are things that we need to do to shine light into the darkness. A few years ago when I was out of work, Father asked me to be a mirror and reflect his love to others. He has now changed that from a mirror to the moon. I know that like me, you probably wonder why use the moon as the example and Father was very specific with me here. Martin Luther King is quoted as saying:

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

The darkness of our culture is growing at a rapid pace and something needs to pierce that darkness. Why not a lighthouse I wondered. The lighthouse pierces the darkness and warns boats of danger along with providing guidance for lost boats. Father continued on the moon because it shines into the darkness of the night but it is NOT the source of the light that it provides, it merely reflects the light of the sun. Scientists measure the amount of reflection in a percentage called Albedo and the moon has an Albedo of between 9 and 14%. In other words, that big rock in the sky reflects 9-14% of the light that hits it and pierces the darkness here on earth. The ratio of brightness of the sun versus the moon amounts to a difference of 398,110 to 1. Father has asked me to be like the moon and reflect His light into the darkness of the world and work to increase my Albedo. That is why I like the MLK quote so much. He speaks about the only solution to the problem is the Love of the Father.

So, what do I do with the information that Father shared about the moon? I am working to form a community of people who are being called to stand and are STANDING for what they believe in. Their stance is spreading the love or light of Father through their corner of the world which when in community, pierces more holes in the darkness. I am working with social media to put together information on people who are shining light into the darkness of the world and by bringing information together on these people, we can support others who are reflecting and get ideas on how to reflect His love in our areas. I am also working to put together speaking opportunities to help increase the Albedo of myself and others. How can you help? You can like the Facebook page called Rays of the Moon and post information on what you are doing to reflect His love in your community. It is time to stand up as Christians for what we know and to do so with Father’s Love. It is time to as Nehemiah said get back on that wall and do a good work. What is yours?